Where do you thrive?
Have you ever been somewhere or have been out doing something when you left\finished you felt this overwhelming joy and spark inside of you? For me, I experience it when I’m leaving church. There’s something that just feels right with my mind and body and I’m so grateful that I was there. Another time I experience it is after working on a project that I’m passionate about. When I’m working on my website, blog, or any other projects that I have going I get fired up about the content that’s being created. The thought of releasing something new and being able to give back is so exciting to me that it’s like an addiction where I can’t get enough of it. That’s because those are activities and places where I thrive. There are also places where the opposite happens and the last thing I’m doing is thriving. Driving for instance can bring out the worst in me. When I see someone cut someone else off or driving recklessly it ignites the wrong kind of fire inside of me and can ruin the rest of my drive. It’s something I’m aware of and working on, but I am also aware that it’s just never going to be a place I find myself loving. It’s important to recognize these moments, because they often times deserve more of your attention. Becoming your best self involves putting yourself in the best position(s), and those best positions often times include the activities where you feel like your best self. It also involves addressing your weak points and seeing what you can do about them.
It’s not just activities
Finding where your thrive in life isn’t just simply finding an activity that makes you feel on another level, no, it goes much deeper than that. It involves all aspects of your life. The people you surround yourself with (you’re the sum of your 5 closest friends), where you work, what hobbies bring the most enjoyment, what food makes you feel at your best, what music puts you in the best mood, what do you do in your free time that makes you the most satisfied. All of these areas have their own ‘thrive’ answer, and it’s important to take time to narrow down what your answer is for every category. The more you narrow down what you enjoy the most the better and more satisfied you will be in general, because you’ll no longer be wasting time doing things that don’t bring any real fulfillment. You’re time is valuable, so make sure you’re spending it on the things that matter.
It involves sacrifice
I have a saying, or maybe someone else said it I don’t know, but it goes “real results takes real work.” This is so true. Sometimes you need to make the hard decisions in order to get to the place that is right for you. That could mean surrounding yourself with new friends and saying goodbye to some old ones, maybe it’s leaving a job that’s been wearing you down, it could be giving up some hobbies that haven’t been adding value to your life, and so on. You don’t have to give stuff up, but odds are there are some things in your life that may have been good for a season but it may be time to let it go. Letting go can be hard, but it can also be one of the most rewarding things when you look back and realize your life is better without it. Going back to my driving example, I like to listen to Podcasts while I drive because it allows me to have something in the background that I can focus on when I feel myself letting other drivers getting the best of me. I realized that music wasn’t always the best choice, because depending on what was playing I would find myself getting more fired up about the situation. Everything you surround yourself with plays a part in your emotions, so when you find yourself in an environment that may not be ideal focus on making the conditions of that environment the best as possible.
Where to start?
Make a list. Write down all the things in your life where you feel the happiest and most fulfilled. After your list is finished, make another list going over the things that don’t add any value to you and come up with a plan on how you are going to remove those things to make room for the truly important things. This is going to help you prioritize the things in your life and will help you start living life to its fullest. These changes won’t happen overnight, not everything is Amazon Prime, but if you consistently work towards them you will start seeing a shift in your life that is allowing more happiness and less pain to come through.
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