Have you ever felt like you were missing out on something? Like there were things other people were doing that you should be doing?
For me, that was Robotics Club. I was a few semesters into my new Network Engineering journey and IT had been going pretty. Then the director of our IT program started hammering us about this Robotics Club and how everyone should be a member. It got to a point where you felt as if there was something wrong with you if you hadn’t joined this club. For the first time, I started questioning if I was doing the right thing. Had I just been getting by these last few semesters and now it’s all going to blow up in my face? Between work, a full schedule, and to be frank a lack of interest in Robotics Club, I didn’t want to join. How could I not though? The director of IT is telling us to! According to him, the experience, resume boost, and connections you will make are too good to pass up. I passed it up anyways; I’ve always had a bit of stubbornness in me. It wasn’t easy though. It seemed at almost every turn I was hearing about this club; what impressive projects they were working on, how it only cost us a one time fee to be a member for life, and being on the directors good side seemed logical as well. Needless to say, it was difficult being persistent and not giving in to what someone else said I should be doing with my time.
What lesson did I learn? I failed in IT because I didn’t join the club and it’s my biggest life regret. Deep, right? Okay, I’m kidding. What I learned was that Robotics Club wasn’t that big of a deal. Maybe I would have made some new connections and possibly learned some things that, to this day, don’t seem applicable to me. At the end of the day I wasn’t missing out on anything. I was able to complete the coursework, find a job, and keep growing in my field without ever attending a single club meetup.
I think life is often like that, we become fixated on something that someone else says we should be doing and if we are not doing that particular thing then we’re failing. You’re not failing! There are probably one thousand things people say you should be doing but the only thing that you should be doing is working on becoming a better version of yourself each day. The beautiful thing is that you are in control of what that means and you get to go about it however you want. Mentorship is a good thing to have in your life (I highly encourage it), but be sure to listen to your own intuition as well and trust you know when something is or is not a good idea for you. Until next time, thank you for reading and remember the only limits are the ones your own mind creates.
Maybe you have already joined something or are feeling pressure to join something that you don’t feel is the right fit for you. It may be time to really think about why you’re doing that specific thing and if it’s worth the energy that your pouring into it. We all have a limited pool of energy we can use throughout the day, so make sure the things you’re using it on are worth it.